Updated: May 12, 2020
Did you ever wonder what the word Mother means? I didn’t until just a few days ago. I have raised 3 children who are adults now but I never really looked up what it meant. To be honest! I probably never had the time! I just did it! I knew I wanted to post something for Mother’s Day and the thought just popped into my mind: What does mother really means? The definition that I liked the best said that mother means to bring up a child with care and affection. How appropriate. Well, I want to take this time to share my annual Mother’s Day blog. I have added a few more nuggets to it for your reading pleasure. I have reposted this blog every year for quite some time now because the message is timeless. I pray that the words will uplift and motivate you, and I want to encourage you that your work as a mother is not done in vain. As a mother, you have been chosen for such a job as this: To be a good steward over your children. Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers.
Nuggets of wisdom from one mother to another! Happy Mother’s Day!
When my son was in elementary school, he's all grown up now, I was painting his room and creating an accent wall and really feeling good about what I was creating. The Holy Spirit whispered to me and said, “You’re a kingdom builder.” Wow! I was just painting a room! But God in his infinite wisdom, knew that the care, love and tenderness that I gave to the project spoke of more than decorating a room. Something deeper was being transmitted. Love was being transmitted. “You’re important to me, son” was being transmitted. “You’re worth it, son” was being transmitted. With every stroke of that paint brush a positive message was being transmitted.
Mothers/wives are responsible for the environment of their home-another nugget the Holy Spirit whispered to me simply because I needed to hear it; because, shall I say, I was kind of acting ugly and needed correction. I accepted the correction and changed the bad attitude! The bible says it’s better for a man to live on the rooftop than to live in the house with a bitter, nagging wife! (Pro. 21:9) Need I say more!?
The word of God also tell fathers (parents) not to provoke their children but to raise them up in the training and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). With those instructions in mind, My late husband and I worked on not provoking our children. The home environment was that of peace and love. Thank you Lord! Also,it was important not to assign tasks to the children that they absolutely hated or that they just didn’t have the fortitude to make it happen. Rather, I sought to assign chores based on their skills, strengths and talents and their fortitude to get the job done. I used every opportunity to build them up. It was important that they felt good about themselves and about what they had accomplished rather than doing the chore itself. The chore was simply a tool to get them to succeed and develop good self-esteem. Yes, mothers are Kingdom Builders!
Can't you tell!? I had a blast raising my children! What hurts me deeply is when parents, especially mothers, don't enjoy parenthood. That's a tragedy and there are so many reasons as to why they don't. Some of the reasons are just the pressures of life. One more mouth to feed. They remind the mother of a missing father, especially if the relationship was traumatic, and then treat the child badly because of that. There are many reasons as to why parents don't enjoy parenthood or motherhood, but again it's a tragedy because it should be a joy. I pray that obstacles be removed from your life, and that you are able to become whole in your emotions so that good things are passed on to your children. I want you to be able to enjoy this precious gift that God has entrusted to you.
Mothers are great influencers in the lives of their children! That’s an exciting challenge but also a sober challenge because it comes with great responsibility. Responsibility to shape and mold our children into the image and likeness of God; to train them up so that they love the things of God and are Kingdom minded, not earthly minded—that’s a legacy right there!
It is bad when children disappoint their parents, but I personally think it’s 10 times worst when parents disappoint their children. Why? They are children. They look to adults for love, guidance and protection. They are blank canvases for us as parents, to write on. The bible refers to our children as arrows; (Ps. 127:4). Mothers and fathers get to shape, mold, retract, aim, and shoot those arrows by the way we influence their lives. Either negatively or positively. As a mother of three God-fearing adult children, I praise God that I got it right! (Not in my own strength but with the help and guidance of the Holy Spirit-He taught me how to show love to my children!) I want to exalt, encourage and cheer you on if you got it right as well. If you haven’t gotten it quite right, it’s never too late. Help is only a prayer away. Also, all kind of resources are available to you these days and the most important one is the word of God! If you got it right but they still strayed, help is only a prayer away! God hears and answers prayer and He cares about your child's well-being! God is able to fix our mistakes. Be encouraged today mothers and know that the role you play is that of a Kingdom Builder.
Helping you to discard your past to embrace your future,
Health & Wellness Educator, Author, Speaker/Teacher
Changing mindsets. Changing Lives