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Don't Waste Your Pain

How are you personally growing in the turmoil? How are you personally growing in the process of your pain? Your hurt? Your disappointments? Your losses? Have you heard these sayings: “Don’t waste your pain or there’s purpose in your pain?” For me, personally, I interpret this to mean, “Did I learn anything in the process of going through? Did it cause me to grow, to mature? Did I leave that painful area of my life being better emotionally, spiritually and physically? Did I go through, eventually, with the right attitude? Did I ask myself, what am I supposed to be learning in this moment of my life?

I used to get upset if someone treated me some kind of way that I didn’t appreciate. Kind of “How dare you treat me this way? Who do you think you are or why do you think this way about me? What signals am I sending out that would cause you to approach me this way?” Little did I know that those were my instructors sent to teach me a thing or two! Those moments taught me something about myself. Instead of getting upset or angry, I began to look within and had to ask myself some tough questions. What is this telling me about myself? What am I supposed to be learning in this moment instead of being upset at the person? I first had to look at my approach and the part I played in the matter and then, I upped my game so to speak. I used these moments as defining moments for me. It doesn’t mean that I excused their behavior and allowed it to continue. It just mean that I looked within and did self-exploration. I have to say though, you have to be open for honest self-reflection which is not always pleasant, although necessary if you’re to grow.

You have to ask yourself, do I want to keep learning this lesson over and over again? You have to tell yourself that at some point, you have to get it. Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.

Your pain can have a purpose or its presence can help you to look deep and ask some tough questions to get to the root of it all. When I don’t know what to do, or even what to pray, I go to the word of God. His word gives hope. It gives answers, and it helps to define who I am, what I stand for, and in whom I believe, and what I believe. It’s my stability in a world that seems so confusing. There’s no confusion in the word of God. In fact, it brings light, it gives life, understanding, and hope. When people don’t seem to know right from wrong, good from evil, God’s word is my stability. It’s my peace. With everything that's going in our world today, I can’t help but to ask myself, how can I grow spiritually from this? Is my pain or circumstances telling me I need to get closer to God? Looking for answers, to be comforted, to receive clarity?

There are so many voices today (and here I am adding to those voices but hopefully I speak truth). So many opinions. So much pain. There are some things in life that are too much for us to bear alone. We need someone greater to lean on and for me that is the word of God. It gives me stability and peace in chaos. If I get caught up in the chaos and focus on it, I know I would lose my peace, and perhaps my purpose. It would be too overwhelming for my senses! I have to remove myself from the chaos, carve out some quiet time with the Lord, and read His word in order to strengthen myself spiritually, and go to the source of comfort, knowledge and truth.

I want to encourage you to find purpose in your pain, or better stated, use it to grow and learn from it. Step back from the noise of the chaos and put your trust in God and His word. Find peace and stability in knowing who Christ is, and who you are in Him and what He says about you and your situation.

He will be the sure foundation for your times, a rich store of salvation and wisdom and knowledge; the fear of the LORD is the key to this treasure. Isaiah 33:6 (NIV)

If this article was helpful, please leave a comment. I would love to hear from you. Iron sharpens iron. We make each other better. I would love to hear your story so I can share it to inspire others. Check out my mini book on Time of Reflection on my website. I think it will help you to answer some of those tough questions to help you to get to your healthy place.

Helping you to discard your past so you can embrace your future,


Health and Wellness Educator

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